Self-care as opposed to self-esteem

I blogged yesterday about focusing on self-care instead of self-esteem. A woman from group recently talked to me about this. Her quote (used with permission) really says it all…

“I liked how the group focused on self-care and not self-esteem. I was always judged for ‘letting’ the abuse happen to me because of my ‘low self-esteem’ or ‘lack of confidence’. When the leader said abuse is not about self-esteem I just felt this heavy load fall off my shoulders.”