Violence Against Women

Some guys who seem really “nice” are violent to women

The Jian Ghomeshi scandal has provoked lots of discussion. One take-away for all of us, I think, is that guys who seem really “nice” are sometimes violent to women. I listened often to the radio show, “Q” and enjoyed Ghomeshi’s broadcasting. He seemed like a genuinely good guy. But here is the thing: men who …

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Did you know that sometimes “professional help” is not helpful?

Helping professional are well intentioned but sometimes for women experiencing abuse, that help is not helpful. In fact, sadly, sometimes the ‘help’ is harmful to women. How is this possible? Well, let’s think about the dynamics of abuse. Men who are abusive are motivated by a desire to have power and control over their partner. …

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How can you be a good support to a woman who has experienced abuse?

#5 Don’t be surprised that the abuse continues after separation. Men, who are abusive, will continue to abuse after separation. They will do this through any ties that the man and woman still have in common (eg. children, assets, the court process, pets, mutual friends etc.) Many women find the first year or two after …

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How can you be a good support to a woman who has experienced abuse?

#3 Believe the woman. Lots of people will listen to the woman’s “side” and then the man’s “side” and decide that the truth must lie somewhere in the middle. Men who are abusive always minimize their abusive behaviour and often will out and out lie about their partners. Women who have been abused also tend …

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How can you be a good support to a woman who has experienced abuse?

#1 Make her safety (emotional and physical) the priority. Don’t do anything without her explicit permission. Without meaning to, you could make the situation worse or put her at risk for harm. Ask her what you can do that would be helpful to her. Being a listening ear is very helpful and may be all …

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