Resources for women

It is incredibly difficult to decide to leave your partner. There are emotional considerations – you may still love him or feel a great deal…

Is the problem my low self-esteem or lack of assertiveness? Some women who are abused by their partners wonder if the problem is low self-esteem.…

Women who have experienced abuse are often told that they do not have good boundaries. If a woman’s partner is abusive, it is unsafe for…

Am I codependent? The term “codependent” has its origin in the AA movement. The idea is that someone who lives with an alcoholic or drug…

Am I “addicted” to him? Sometimes women wonder if they are addicted to their partner. Claire described her feelings in this way. I don’t know…

Good counselling and bad counselling Many women who have experienced abuse have sought help through a variety of counselors. Sometimes counseling is helpful and sometimes…

Why do I still love him? Women often struggle with their feelings of love for their partner. Perhaps others have suggested that you are “crazy”…

Is my partner’s problem abuse or addiction? Sometimes women wonder if their partner’s problem is abuse or addiction. If you know your partner has an…

Why Does “Anger Management” Not Work? Sometimes men who are abusive take “Anger Management” courses. Women have reported to us that these programs do not…

Helpful support for a woman who has experienced abuse Make her safety (emotional and physical) the priority. Don’t do anything without her explicit permission. Without…

Am I abusive too? Sometimes women wonder and worry if they are abusive, like their partner. Abusive men, the police or other “helping professionals” sometimes…

Many types of abuse There are many different types of abuse. Here is a list of abuse women from our support groups have identified. If…