Often when people are trying to understand woman abuse, the first question they ask is, “why doesn’t she leave?” This is a faulty starting point. The point really is why does he continue to be abusive and why does society, in subtle and not so subtle ways, allow the abuse to continue? Women stay for lots of reasons. Sometimes they stay out of fear. The most dangerous time for a woman, who has experienced abuse, is when she leaves her partner. By beginning the engagement with this issue with the question, “why doesn’t she leave”, we are blaming the woman for the abuse and suggesting that she could stop the abuse by leaving, which she cannot. He will continue to be abusive to her, even after she has left. The problem is with him, not with her.