Abuse has a pattern. It is not an isolated event. In any long-term intimate relationships, both parties will have moments of being thoughtless, or even hurtful to the other. But an abusive person has a pattern of repeatedly doing hurtful and controlling things over and over again. The intention is to create fear and confusion instead of true relationship. We call this abusive pattern the Cycle of Abuse and if you have not heard about this please scroll back through the blog and listen to the two videos that explain it.