In order for someone to be abusive to someone else, they have to have power over that person. In many of our relationships, one person has more power than the other person. Most of the time, men have more power than women in intimate relationships. The most common forms of power in heterosexual relationships are physical strength, financial control and social power. We have already talked about how men usually are physically larger and stronger than their female counterparts. Also, men tend to have more financial power (Canadian women earn 28% less than Canadian men.) It also seems that men have more social power. Men are believed by police, judges, family and friends in ways that women are often not. I would have never thought this was true until I started this work 16 years ago but time and time again I hear how women are not believed. Women are discredited and told they are “overreacting”, “too sensitive”, “too emotional” etc. It seems to me that men are not discredited in the same ways.