So often Christian women stay longer, in abusive relationships, than non-Christian women. This is usually because they believe that they have vowed to stay “until death do us part”. But abuse breaks the covenant of marriage. The man has vowed to “love, honour and cherish” and his abuse has broken that vow. The marriage is over, if the woman seeks to separate or divorce, all she is doing is trying to live the truth and stop living a lie. The abuse has destroyed the marriage.