Don’t ask, “what is wrong with this woman?” Ask, “what has happened to this woman?”
When helping professionals focus on “what is wrong” with a woman who has experienced abuse, they miss the point entirely and usually do more damage to the woman. We see this often. Women who have been impacted by abuse are seen to have something wrong with them because they are anxious or depressed or self-medicating in one way or another. These are all normal reactions to abuse! The helping professional or supportive friend needs to ask “what has happened to this woman?” not, “what is wrong with this woman?”
Episode 8: Understanding the healing journey
In this episode, we explore the healing journey for women who have experienced abuse.
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Episode 7: Mothering, post separation abuse, and the legal system
How men’s abuse profoundly impacts mothering and how that abuse so often continues after separation…
Episode 6: The harms of help
How services can repeat dynamics of abuse.
Episode 5: Why abusive men are abusive
In this episode, we take on the question women ask again and again: Why is…
Welcome to Episode 4: The impacts of abuse for women
We want to thank you for joining us for this heavy, but essential, conversation. Be…
Episode 3: Understanding the power and control wheel
In this episode of the When Love Hurts podcast, we unpack the realities of power…
Episode 2: Understanding the cycle of abuse
In this episode, we take a deeper look at the cycle of abuse, what it…