Abuse can happen to anyone. True or False?

ByKaren McAndless-Davis November 9, 2012November 9, 2012

This post is from ShamelessSurvivors.com: It doesn’t start off with a punch in the face or a knock down fight. It is a gradual desensitization. Pushing the limit just a little each time. A comment here. Criticism disguised as concern for you. Teasing in the uncomfortable zone. Testing you to see where the resistance is, backing off, then approaching a different way. We don’t see it at the time but it is ‘grooming’ behavior. Breaking down our personal boundaries.By the time we become aware what is actually happening we are squarely in and the psychological control has happened well before the physical control begins.Judge not. Empower with support and appreciate it can happen to ANYONE. ANYONE. We don’t actually know what we’d do in any given situation.

Planning for Safety

ByWLH Team February 11, 2008June 4, 2013

How can I plan ahead? It may be difficult to plan for the future. Part of the struggle may be that your partner’s abuse leaves you exhausted and off-balance. Because of this, it may be difficult to do more than just get through the day. For some women, the physical, financial or social threats their…

Abuse and Power

ByKaren McAndless-Davis October 29, 2012

Abuse happens when there is an imbalance of power. It is impossible to understand abuse – when it happens and how it happens – without an examination of power. Sometimes the women I work with have done things they are ashamed of in their relationship. They have slapped their partner across the face or thrown…

How can I tell if I am being abused?

ByKaren McAndless-Davis June 17, 2012June 4, 2013

It is really hard to even consider if your partner might be abusive. A good question to ask is “am I afraid”? In a respectful, mutual relationship, two people can disagree – fight even – but neither party is afraid of being attacked (physically or emotionally).

4 signs your counsellor might have training in abuse

ByKaren McAndless-Davis September 8, 2016May 6, 2020

If asked, most counsellors will say that they have training in abuse but it is not part of the standard curriculum for most counselling programs. So, how can you figure out if your counsellor really does understand abuse or simply thinks they understand? Here are a few things you could look for: Do they hold…

One Third

ByWLH Team September 29, 2012September 30, 2012

What is a normal reaction to abuse?

ByKaren McAndless-Davis September 28, 2012June 4, 2013

In this video Jill asks the question, “what is a normal reaction to living with abuse, power and control?” She touches on some normal mental and physical reactions such as depression, anxiety, panic attacks and headaches.

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