#5 Don’t be surprised that the abuse continues after separation. Men, who are abusive, will continue to abuse after separation. They will do this through any ties that the man and woman still have in common (eg. children, assets, the court process, pets, mutual friends etc.) Many women find the first year or two after separation extremely difficult. This is one of the reasons that it is important to know that you, as a support person, need to be there for a woman over the long haul.