We have to take sides when it comes to abuse.
If we remain neutral in the face of abuse, we are helping the abuser. Our silence is what he wants. Abuse continues because it works for abusive men, they get their way with no consequences.
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Thank you…
Amen! There is no “I want to remain friends with both of you”…well, he is not admitting the abuse at all so you are saying I am nuts or a liar, why would you want to remain friends with me is I was either of those??
Very well put! Thanks for that.