Is this a “communication problem” or abuse?
Take a listen to this podcast. Karen McAndless-Davis is asked about the difference between poor communication and abuse.
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Aren’t women abusive too?
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If you have found a treatment program that is a good match for you as you seek support we do not want to say anything that would undermine that support. But if you have tried a treatment program, that is based on the 12 Steps, and you have found yourself uncomfortable with parts of it….
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It is not about forgiveness when everything is broken
A woman shared these thoughts about forgiveness in the context of abuse. I would like to share them with you. My husband has been abusive to me for years. His behaviour has caused unimaginable destruction in my life. Every once in a while, he will say, “I’m sorry. Forgive me.” Those words seem ridiculous to me….
Rapists: Not who you think they are
The majority of men who commit rape describe their behaviour as “definitely not rape” (84%). Most rapists seem “normal” and appear to be “good guys”. They are not sociopaths or psychopaths. They are ordinary men who hold ideas about male entitlement and women’s inferiority. In other words, they are men who hold the abuse mentality…