Helpful Ideas for Women

A woman talks about being “co-dependent” in an abusive relationship

Lots of women who come to our support groups have been told they are “co-dependent”. If a woman lives with an abusive man, she will do many things to try to stay safe – emotionally and physically. She will accommodate his demands in many ways in order to try to limit the damage done to herself or …

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Attachment and Loss – Why the end of a relationship hurts so much

I have been reading about attachment theory recently. Attachment is primary to our being. It is how we have survived as a species – sticking together.  Our attachment impulse keeps drawing us together with the other. First with our mothers (when we are very young) and then with others. I read recently that we are not actually …

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Am I Abusive Too?

Sometimes women wonder and worry if they are abusive, like their partner. Abusive men, the police or other “helping professionals” sometimes tell women they are abusive. The idea that it “takes two to tango” is a predominant one in our culture. Maybe you have fought back, yelled at or hit your partner but it is important to ask yourself a few questions about the context in which you behaved that way and the motives behind your behaviour

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