#2 Let the woman be the expert on her own life. She knows more about herself, her partner and her children than you ever will. You can support her but you should not take over her decision making process. Rather, you can help her listen to her gut and figure out what is going to be best or safest for her. Too often friends, family or professionals try to tell the woman what to do and sometimes even threaten to withdraw support if the woman does not do what she is told. If you do this, you have become like her partner – a bully.