Aren’t men just “too ashamed” to report abuse? Some people think that abuse happens to men at the same rate as women but they are “too ashamed” to report it. Here’s the thing, women are ashamed to report it too. The women we work with are extremely reluctant to call abuse abuse. Women are silenced for many reasons including embarrassment. At the same time, men who are abusive are very quick to accuse their partners of being abusive. This is a common tactic. A man who is abusive will go to family, friends and the wider community and say, “she is abusive”. So how can we make sense of this? Come back tomorrow and we will start to explore the difference between “abuse” and “bad behaviour”.